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There’s absolutely no one that can know and understand a daughter like the parents especially the mother. But how many times have you as daughters felt misunderstood while growing up? So many times I dare say. Some people reading this are daughters, mothers or mothers to be, so what can we do better? I have few pointers that can help you better understand your daughters and help foster a more healthy relationship.
I believe as parents, you know your children are unique beings, but you often forget this knowledge when you deal with situations that pertain to them. For you to understand our daughters better you have to bring this knowledge to the forefront when you deal with issues that pertain to your daughters. Even before they were conceived, God has already determined your daughter’s potentials, it is now your duty to help them discover, harness and develop such potentials as soon as now. These potentials are super easy to spot. You will see it in their temperament, interest, attitude, character, and gifts. Each of your children is unique in their own way because no two children are the same so you cannot afford to treat your children the same way. Even twins born almost at the same time, no matter how identical, are always different and so cannot be treated the same way, let alone siblings. My first daughter is super calm, the pretty after her, not as calm, the pretty after her, is also very calm and the last girl is not so calm. I will be setting myself up for failure if I fail to recognize this and handle them so. Care needs to be taken especially with the girl child. Most parents want to use the same yardstick they used with the first daughter to raise other siblings and then it becomes an issue especially if that child was a very peaceful and responsible child. You must love your daughters unconditionally but develop them individually. You may have some super easy to raise while others are a little challenging to raise. Get to know who they are, what they love, what they are good at, what makes them smile, What comes to them easily with little or no effort, what they succeed at, how they behave when they are alone, how they cope with change, who their friends are, what they discuss together, the choices they make and so much more. Once you are able to find what your daughter’s potentials are and you truly know who they are then you are already a step ahead in understanding her better.
Parents, you can never get to understand your other children if you have a favorite among siblings. And trust me they always know, no matter how much you try to hide it. So the best way here is to never ever have a favorite. Treat them all equally and peace will reign.
BRING THE PAST FORWARD
Remember how you felt misunderstood sometimes while growing up? Think about those issues and what led to them then try to relate such experiences with the present and you will be amazed at how you will see such the issue in a different light. Most especially the teenage years. A lot of parents has issues with their teenage daughters during this time but it doesn’t have to be so. Share your experiences during your teenage years with your teenage daughter, how you also felt misunderstood (if you were) and how you want them to make better choices so they can have a smooth transition to womanhood. Children learn better from shared experiences so don’t hesitate to share yours with them. It is great when if you had a smooth transition yourself with less drama but it will be even more beneficial to them if you had it rough and do not want them to have it rough as well. So dig deep and allow your girls to learn better to pave way for deeper healthy relationship and better understanding.
DISCOVERED IDENTITY AND VOICE
Help your daughters to discover their own identity. It is no surprise that you most times have your minds made up on what we want the children to be when they grow up, where they marry from, schools they go to and more. But you can absolutely do better by shifting your mindset from the norm. You need to start listening to what your children value, what they need as it relates to their potentials and unique abilities and what they fear. Do not force them to try to go the way you wish you had gone, you can only encourage them by sharing your stories with them and if they are destined to follow that path than they will. Steer them in the right way to discover their own identity and voice and then be their greatest supporter and number one fan.Understanding is inevitable when you allow your daughters to blossom naturally and help them to discover their identity and voice.Click To Tweet
THEY ARE YOUR FUTURE
Your children are your future and the future of the world at large, so you must be careful how you raise them. When you begin to see them as your future then you will invest more time, resources and prayers in your daughters. If it means putting your own dreams on hold for a little while, then it do it, you will never regret it. Remember if the foundation is not well laid, no matter what you build on it, it will come crashing down. So get the foundation right and the rest will fall in place.
Train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6
Now when the proper training has been taken care of, understanding your daughter will ensue as you will both be on the same page. It is never complicated raising a girl child like some claim, you just need to do it right and start early too.
Understanding is sympathetically being aware of other people’s feelings, tolerant and forgiving, according to the dictionary.
A mother is she who can take the place of all others but whose place no one else can take. Unknown
Dad and Mom, you are doing a fantastic job!