I remember when my breast started to bud, I was beyond excited. I am the last born of my family so I got to watch three older sisters of mine with so much admiration and just couldn’t wait to do what they did, most especially to wear the bra. I even tried sizing their own on my near flat chest and wondered where they got all the flesh to fill it up from……..hahaha. I was a late bloomer and so many of my friends already wore either a bra top (known as a crop bra now) or the real bra. I was really itching to wear one, anyone, the real thing or the fake, just bring it, please. So you can imagine how elated I was when I noticed the breast budding.
My mom made the experience very special. She took me to the market where I was able to choose from varieties of bra tops that appealed to me. They were beautifully and uniquely designed with flowers and butterflies just like I imagined.
Those memories made it even more important to make these experiences extra special for my daughters and so should you. My first daughter will be turning Nine years old in a couple of days and even though we have had several discussion about the importance of wearing a bra when the breasts start to bud, I feel its time to buy her the training bras. We started having these conversations because while I was super excited to wear a bra even without having any breast, some find the experience quite embarrassing. I need her to understand and embrace the need to use one when the time comes, be comfortable with it. and not see it as a burden.
Breast formation which is mostly the first sign of puberty usually starts between the ages of 8 years old and thirteen years old. This is a transition from being flat chested to tiny breast buds to developing breast and finally fully developed breast. During this transition, the process can feel painful and itchy, which is quite normal. The breast will continue to develop until the teen year ends. One of the breasts is usually larger than the other one at first before it balances out or not. For the girls already showing, however, it is time to invest in comfortable bras or bra tops. We must also teach them to care for their bras by hand washing as often as every 2 – 3 days. It’s best to treat them like we treat our panties.
Having a breast is a must no matter how tiny or big, you and I have been chosen and handpicked by God to have two and they were given to us for some crucial and specific purposes. Few of which are to differentiate us from men, attract and satisfy our men sexually, supply breast milk to our babies through breastfeeding when the babies come. The reason we need to wear an appropriately fitted bra is to prevent our breast nipples from showing through our clothes, to support the breast ( can be painful without support), to avoid the swinging of the breast when walking, running or moving and to help us look smart and well put together.
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It is, however, important to know and get the right sizing for your daughter’s bra size or even your own. A wrong bra size makes it even more difficult to adjust to. Ensure the size is not too big or too small. If it is too big, the bra will keep riding up over the breast making it feel uncomfortable and restless looking for ways to pull it back to place. If it is too tight it also leaves you breathless and uncomfortable. I wore my bra tops for a while before the real breasts emerged. When they finally surfaced, I found it very hard getting my right size. I tried on several bras upon bras to no avail, until my mom found the right way to get my measurement taken. Below are steps you can use to find the correct measurement of yours and your daughter’s bra or you can speak with a bra fit specialist.
- Buy a measuring tape.
- Wear a fitted non-padded bra
- Measure around your rib cage your underbust in inches
- Add number 5 to the number you got above. If you got an odd number add 1 to make the number even to get the band size. (a)
- Measure around your body the fullest part of your breast.
- To get the cup size from the above measurement. (b)
- AAA – If the band size (a) is larger than the breast size (b).
- AA – If the measurement is equal.
- A – If the band size is up to 1 inch smaller.
- B – If the band size is up to 2 inches smaller.
- C – If the band size is up 3 inches smaller.
- D – If the band size is up to 4 inches smaller.
- DD – If the band size is up to 5 inches smaller.
- Once you figure out the cup size, put the band size (a) beside the cup size (b) and you will have your bra size. ( like 34c)
There are different types of bra available for purchase at different stores.
♦TRAINING OR CROP BRA
It is good to start with a training or crop bra when you notice your daughter’s breast is starting to bud or about to bud because it helps them to get used to the idea of wearing a bra.
♦ SPORTS BRA
They are comfortable, lightweight and for active girls. The sizes usually come in small, medium and large.
♦ T-SHIRT BRAS
This is a comfortable bra that is natural, seamless and light. Usually for the small sized breast. if you notice your breast looks saggy or not well supported, it’s time to make a change.
♦ WIRELESS BRA
Supports and hold up the breast without any wire encased.
♦ UNDERWIRE BRA
This comes encased in underwire for extra support and lift. Can be very comfortable if right size is selected.
♦ PUSHUP BRA
This is suitable for small breasted older girls (teenagers) looking for extra support and lift.
I will really love to read about your experiences as your breast developed and how you handled the change or how you are helping or helped your daughters in the comment section below.