It’s getting really worrisome to see the trend in the books that are being published these days for our young and immature minds, yet they must read. I find it difficult to comprehend why books for five-year-old and eight-year-old has a handful of misleading and suggestive scenarios. It is very appalling, to say the least. It’s like all you are teaching your children, the world is saying NO to at every turn they make. God bless their innocent souls that they are open enough to discuss all they hear in school that bothers them.
This is no exaggeration, but at least 95% of the books my eight-year-old brings from the school library or we get from the public library has something to say about Hero or Heroine having a boyfriend or girlfriend. I got to know these because I told her otherwise, so when she sees it, she brings to my knowledge and shows me, we talk about it but it kills me from the inside. Why? Why? But Why? What does an author seek to accomplish by chipping these into their books, validating what their 8-year-old friends say; ………… he is my boyfriend and I love him while opposing what dear parents say. Little wonder our little girls are making mistakes.
So the world is not happy about teenage pregnancies, substance abuse, and deadly sexual diseases, but supports all sexual media content, uncensored online content, inappropriate books for our children by encouraging the actions that lead to them. Confusing for the youngsters, isn’t it? The books they read, the friends they meet, media, magazines and the internet are all pieces coming together to condition our ward’s mind.
How do we even begin to fight these battle? I ask myself.
My kindergartener came home with some books some weeks ago. While reading to her, I froze and began to stutter and try to make up an alternative to what was written;
The princess leaned into the prince for a kiss and discovered he had a chapped lips…………….
What? No way! I think it’s time for a new generation of authors to emerge that will not only write to make a profit but to change lives positively. There is a need, so we have to rise to the task to see the change we crave.
We have a lot of work to do as parents. Even when you are very careful with the choice of media content for these kids, the ads that sometimes come up on regular programmes can leave one dumbfounded. The comics and images in the books they read are not left out. If we are not careful, these so-called media will be responsible for shaping our children’s value.
Some weeks ago, my daughter’s friend also got a book from her school library to read at home. Her mom took out the book to read to her and saw the title of the book, and screamed. She called me discussing the matter and even sent me the pictures she took. The book is about a small child who has two moms. What message is the book really trying to pass across to a kindergartener? It’s ok for your dad to have two wives……………… She has since stopped her daughter from taking books from the school to read. Instead, she decided to be buying her books. These books most of the time are donated to schools for free.
I can go on and on but I choose to stop here to pursue the way forward.
Just like a lot of us are careful with what we allow them to watch on the television and the internet, go through the books your kids are reading and make sure they are reading good content that will add value to them instead of confusing them. When buying or collecting books from the library take time to flip through to know the ones that will do well for your children.
Even with being careful, you find out that your children will still have to read books with others in school and some other places you may not have the opportunity of being with them. This is where the intentional teaching you give them comes to play. In such cases, you will see that they will come back and tell you all about the story if they find something amiss or contrary to what you have taught them.
Take time to spell out what is wrong or right and the dangers lurking out there and why they need to be careful with what they are taking in always. What they keep seeing or hearing repeatedly unconsciously begins to form in their mind, making think over and over again until it becomes a conviction. If we do not take out the time to be intentional in our parenting the world and media will be their teacher and trust me they will learn fast.
Start to teach them when their mind is still fertile and not Polluted so that when the pollutants come they already know what is right and will be able to make a choice.The solid foundation we lay in our children is very important and it will keep them standing for years. Click To TweetJust like we lay a good solid foundation for our houses so it can withstand all forms of weather and still be standing so also we need to invest our time in nurturing our children.
By all means, please write books if you can. When we have all of these as the bedrock of our writing, we will have a mission and a vision in mind for the kind of books we want to write and what we hope to accomplish with the books. When parents take it upon themselves to write books with the sole purpose of instilling good values in our children then the change we seek in the world is imminent. Start by researching how to write children’s book, and you will be amazed at the resources out there. I have started my research and already inspired by my findings. I hope you do too.
Let’s keep striving to give our girls the very best they deserve because I believe, a big difference they will make.