Do not for one second think your effort does not count or your children do not appreciate the sacrifices you make for them. Truth is they really do. Have you not wondered how you are able to remember some memories of your childhood. It’s simply amazing, right? The teeny tiny details that did not make any sense then but does so much now.
Our kid’s mind is very active, the more reason we should always treat them right. So many parental relationships have either been marred or severed by memories. This does not have anything to do with disciplining our children. I’m an advocate of discipline. However, we need to strike a balance between discipline and abuse. That being said, they know when your reprimand is as a result of their disobedience. So they quickly get over it. But there are times when we think they have fallen out of line which isn’t the case, please be quick to apologize to them bearing in mind that they are also human. For me, there is no hard and fast rule to training one’s child. So many conflicting takes on this matter out there. Spank ( spare the rod and spoil the child ), don’t spank ( Rod does not signify beating, it is used to guide), just a tap will do, what! Timeout is more like it, oh no! Timeout leads to the child feeling isolated, ok take away what the child loves most ( while it may work for some, others switches to new-found love), try talking to your child( and snooze, the child dozed off) phew! The list is endless.
My take, when it comes to parenting, do what works for you. It is no accident those children are in your care. God placed them specifically in your care for a reason and because he trusts you with them. He saw the people dishing out all the discipline methods to you but no he didn’t send them your children, he chose you.
Parenting is not an easy task. It would have been easier if the kids came with a manual but alas! wishes are not horses. We still have to draw our strength and wisdom from the father of all creation.
Moreover, through all these challenges of raising our wonderful children, what counts most and keeps us going is the unconditional love our children have for us (that’s super deep). And the little words of gratitude that comes from their heart to us. My five-year-old daughter woke up one morning, gave me a tight hug and said, “mom, thank you for all the things you do for me”. And since then, she tells me every single day. This brought tears to my eyes the very first day she said it. They are actually watching everything with their little eyes. Ain’t we grateful for these super beings.
In the comment section, please share with us some of the things your kids say to appreciate you that keeps you going.